Whenever I thought of my ego, I would envision it as that part of me that is self-centered, arrogant, self-sufficient, or in the negative, self-righteous, self-serving, self-indulgent, self-aggrandizing, closed, inflexible, and judgmental. I never thought of it as self-correcting, flexible, self-reflective, open, or compassionate for you see I thought of these attributes to be that of my deeper more soulful self, certainly not of my shallower bodily ego-self. It’s what some have called the “two hearts” or body and soul. You can imagine my surprise when I discovered that the ego me, what Carl Jung called das Ich, was both the so called negative and positive aspects and that I had split off the good side and hidden it in something called soul. But it wasn’t really the soul.
Some philosophies fold spirit, soul, self, ego into something called the psyche while others separate spirit from the rest and others use soul and spirit synonymously. How does one parse what aspect they’re operating out of if there’s no agreement to what’s actually there? When operating out of the enlightened side am I transcending the unenlightened or just flipping to a different side? When do I transcend body and inhabit soul? When I take on a new way of being am I transcending the old by embracing the spirit or just flipping the coin over?
Truth be told it was pretty much self-serving on my part to imagine that as I learned to let go of old ways of thinking and acting that the new more open, deeper thinking, and flexible person was an enlightened being reflecting a more spiritual self than the old self-centered ego-self. But the ego-self was more flexible in its approach to life than I had given it credit for. What I credited with enlightened spirit values was just a shift in values, same ego, different side.
The “two-hearts” concept is for me actually one heart, a dark and light duality that’s a function of the body i.e., the ego-self.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m much happier with this other side, it’s much less stressful, more accepting, with a greater sense of pride of self. However, I’m left with what is this deeper, soulful, spirit-self I’ve been searching for all this time? Intuitively I know it’s there, but what is it? If all the “goodness” that I’ve attributed to it is just a reflection of the dual aspect ego, then what are its attributes? Does it even have attributes? Sometimes it just feels like an IS. It’s there, calmly sitting, a wisdom beyond words and thoughts, guiding, holding my figurative hand, displaying an objectless knowing, and an other-presence or alternate-self deep within or perhaps surrounding the dualistic ego-self.
This alternate-self is not the split personality depicted in the Jekyll and Hyde story or the multiple personality described for those who exhibit Dissociative Personality Disorder. This is a beingness neither subjective nor objective but a wholly different construct, a fact subjectively experienced or a twin spirit if you will. For me an example might be my experience of God as a non-objective presence subjectively experienced. It’s also a being resting beneath my everyday identity of self. It is a place where both objective and subjective realities coexist, where the dichotomy between them breaks down. It’s a construct that when realized reveals the authentic self. I use the word ‘construct’ because like the ego there’s no concrete reality or adequate description for what I’m trying to convey.
It’s a place that when I trip and fall into it because I can never just walk through its door uninvited, I know that I’m there i.e., a beingness beyond the regular beingness of the world. It’s a place where I know that all is as it should be for how could it be anything else?